How many times do you say YES, when you really want to say NO? If you are like most people, you say YES to a lot of things, when you would really prefer to say No. Why is that? In this week’s episode, Leah and Jennifer talk about the different phase of the word NO.

Phase 1 – No is a complete sentence. When we were little we had no problem with the word No. In fact, we mastered the craft of being able to say no without any guilt whatsoever. Think about your children, do they feel uncomfortable saying No to you? Here’s a test….tonight ask them if they want to eat all their vegetables, you will probably get a resounding NO from them.

Phase 2 – No, but with an excuse. We usually enter this phase in our teenage years. We are still able to say No to the things we don’t want to do; however, now we add an excuse to support it. This is because we have learned to be aware of what others think. Remember the old excuse about the dog eating the homework?

Phase 3 – Yes, because we are too tired or guilty to say no. In this phase we have just grown tired of thinking up excuses, and we feel so guilty saying no, that we just start to say YES. It seems easier than figuring out a way to say No. This is the phase that most adults (especially women) find themselves in. This is where we say yes, but in our heart we want to say no.

Phase 4 – No is a complete sentence. This is the final phase where we learn that it is O.K. to say no to others and to don’t feel guilty about it. When we reach this phase of being able to say No, we are showing a great amount of respect for ourselves. We become empowered and start living proactively!

Remember, when you say NO to those things you really do not want to do, you are actually saying YES to yourself!

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