This week Jen and Leah continue their two part series and they discuss their thoughts about one of Jennifer’s favorite coaching tips! This tip is referred to as the ’slow it down, turn it around’ tip, which actually means:  Think Before You Speak! They discuss the manner in which you respond to situations and how often times people tend to react and say things they do not mean because they are acting defensively and haven’t thought their words through before speaking.

If you can begin to slow down, and turn it around before speaking your opinion you might find that you will respond very differently than you would have anticipated.

Referencing the book The Greatest Man Who Ever Lived by Steven K. Scott, Jen and Leah review the checklist that Scott created that will help you to slow down and turn it around before you speak! Excellent tips for living your life from a position of empowerment.

1. Respond calmly – think before you speak and respond calmly instead of just *reacting*

2. Listen first – don’t interrupt, don’t think about what you are going to say in response….just LISTEN

3. Approach others from THEIR frame of reference – realizing that if someone is saying mean or negative things to you, it probably means that they are not happy with themselves

4. Begin to look at others from the perspective of what you can give in the relationship rather than what you can receive. When you live proactively and worry less about what you are *getting* from your relationships, your life becomes more peaceful, easier, less stressful and more fun!

For more great coaching tips from Jennifer and Leah, be sure to purchase their cd Your 30 Day Guide to Becoming the Artist of your life. It’s just a $20 investment and promises to give you the tools, tips and resources needed to start living your life to the fullest!

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This week Leah and Jen start a two part series where they each share one of their favorite coaching tips with their podcast listeners. Leah shares one of her favorite tips this week, which is Setting Boundaries in your life. Boundaries are imaginary lines that you draw around yourself that allow you to grow and become your authentic self, because these imaginary lines *protect* us from the actions of others. When we create boundaries in our lives, we are basically setting *rules* for what are acceptable behaviors by others in our lives. Boundaries clearly define what people can and can not do to you.

Some examples of setting boundaries include:

1. Determining what actions and behaviors are acceptable in your marriage, with your family/children and with your friends and co-workers. This is probably the most important (and often most difficult) area to set clear boundaries. When you don’t set boundaries in this area, many times you end of feeling like a *victim* or that you are being taken advantage by others.

2. Deciding how you will be spoken to and treated by others – what you accept and what you do not accept.

3. Deciding what places that you will go, things that you will do, and people that you choose to have in your life. When you know what you do not want to do, then you no longer have to do it.

4. Determing what type of risks that you will take in life and ones that you won’t.

One tip that will help you in beginning to set boundaries in your life is by learning to say NO. Leah and Jen often talk about that fact that ‘NO” is a complete sentence. When we learn to say no to those things that we do not want to do, we are in essence saying Yes to ourselves.

To learn more about setting clear boundaries in your life, be sure to listen to this week’s podcast! Also, you can purchase Leah & Jen’s CD – 30 Days to Becoming the Artist of Your Life! It is chock full of coaching tips, techniques and practices to help you begin living a proactively, passionate and purposeful life!

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